There are many relationships that end because the man isn’t aggressive enough for the woman he’s with. This is a bit hard to define and to handle when you’re in this sort of situation. Sometimes it’s really difficult for either partner to understand what’s actually going on and even more difficult to resolve it. The problem is that there’s not something that’s really wrong in the relationship. It’s just that there’s something that’s not totally right, either.
You may first notice it once you start to become intimate with each other. This is when it usually becomes clear that you’re dealing with someone that’s used to others making the first move. For example, if you had to kiss him the first time and that hasn’t changed, you probably get a little frustrated that he doesn’t seem to be into kissing you. The truth is that he probably really LOVES kissing you, doesn’t want you to feel forced into doing something that you really don’t want to do.
Kissing extends into sexual encounters. You’re the one that has to always initiate the encounter. In addition, you have to take the lead in what sort of things you do together sexually. That can be highly annoying. It can make you feel as if this guy doesn’t love you at all, or doesn’t want you. On top of that, the entire sex session seems to be very controlled on his part. That means that he doesn’t seem to really get into things and actually go wild and crazy while having sex. It doesn’t matter what you do to spice things up or get a reaction out of him, he still seems a bit lukewarm to the entire experience.
If this is your problem, and otherwise you really like the guy, there are some ways to approach the situation that may help you resolve it. Obviously, the first step is to sit down and talk about things. It needs to be an open and honest conversation because there HAS to be a reason that he’s so withdrawn during sex. Tell him that you really enjoy spending time with him and that you like him a lot, but you need to know why he seems less than involved when the two of you are intimate. Don’t accept any answer that says you’re imagining things or that he’s totally right there with you. Insist on a truthful answer.
If talking doesn’t get you anywhere, try some things you know that nearly all men love when it comes to having sex. A good thing to try is teasing. This can be done for hours or even days. Do everything you know has shown some promising reactions in the past and do them while wearing sexy clothing that you know he likes. But refrain from initiating any kissing, touching or anything else that can be taken as a precursor to sex. Let him watch you move in your sexy clothes and doing things that you know are showing you off to your fullest advantage. He needs to be teased until he IS passionate about being with you.
If nothing works, you may have to simply accept the fact that he either has a very, very low sex drive, or he’s gay. Either way, you probably will never have a successful relationship with him unless you give up those hot and regular sexual encounters.
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