Believe it or not, the subject of when it’s time to have a baby is one of the hottest topics that couples debate. In spite of the fact that the majority of couples in the world actually WANT to expand their families, there is a significant number of them that are happy with things just the way they are. There’s nothing wrong with that attitude, either. In fact, it’s good to realize that you’re just not interested in being parents BEFORE that first baby comes along. These couples lead full and exciting lives together and like it that way.
The real problem arises when the subject of having a baby is assumed rather that discussed ahead of time. These are the couples that suddenly find themselves in the situation of one of them being ready for a baby and the other isn’t on board. While it’s typically the women that are ready for motherhood, many times it’s the men that want to become fathers while their partners aren’t ready. This one can be a bit of an issue since it’s the woman that must give up part of her life to carry the baby, give birth and take care of it for the first few weeks of life.
It goes without saying that the subject of children should have come up before marriage or living together took place. This is a very important topic between couples and can actually be a deal breaker if one is determined to have children and the other one isn’t interested. Therefore, all couples should have this conversation early on in their relationship while there’s still time to back out if you’re not both on the same page.
Now, assume, though, that you’re didn’t do any of those preparation talks and now you’re in a situation where your partner wants a baby and you’re not ready to give up any part of your freedom. You may be relieved to know that if the problem is that you’re just not ready to put your career on hold, there’s a solution to that. If your partner is determined that now is the time for a baby and you’re ok with that except for putting aside your career; let your partner take time off from work and be a house dad for a while. Many men are quite happy to do this and it works out great. The mother can go through the pregnancy and delivery; then take some time off to recuperate and bond with her baby. When she’s ready to go back to work, then the father steps in and assumes the duties of baby care taker. That totally solves the problem because everyone is happy and the baby stands a good chance of growing up well loved and well adjusted.
If, on the other hand, your male counterpart feels that YOU should be the one to give up everything just so he can enjoy a bit of immortality, you may want to consider some couples counseling, as this can be a bit of a relationship ender.
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