Wedding bells start ringing early in the year with many couples choosing a New Year’s Day wedding, a Valentine’s Day Wedding and, of course, that month of weddings; June. Planning a wedding can be stressful but it should also be fun because of the joyous occasion that it’s preparing for. However, each year there are couples that marry but for all the wrong reasons. They’re not getting married because they passionately love each other and simply cannot spend another moment apart. They’re getting married because life has thrown them a curve ball and they feel that the only solution is to get married.
These reasons may be staring you in the face right this minute and you’re thinking that the only answer is to get married. If any of those reasons are on the following list, please re-think your decision before it’s too late.
Unplanned Pregnancy: This is one of the worst reasons under the sun to get married. Single women get pregnant and have babies without a wedding ring on their fingers every day now. Some of these women even get pregnant on purpose, never intending to get married. So if you turn up pregnant, but you and your partner just aren’t sure that you’re ready to be married; don’t do it! You can both still be a huge part of the baby’s life. Down the road, if marriage seems like the thing to do, then go ahead and make it legal, but do it for the right reasons.
The ticking of the biological clock: Many women hit their 30’s and start seeing their chances for becoming pregnant slipping away. Because of this, they rush headlong into a marriage so that they can become pregnant legally and morally. Don’t get sucked up into this trap. There are now many ways that you can have your own child and you don’t have to be married to do it. Investigate artificial insemination or simply reach an agreement with your partner to have a baby together. Do your research but don’t marry someone you don’t really love just to have a baby.
It’s not necessarily the next logical step: Just because you’ve reached a point in your relationship where you feel there’s nothing else to do but get married doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. If you’re not in love and passionate about the other person, you’re not ready to marry him.
Marrying for money: This is, perhaps, the worst reason of all to get married. Money can do a lot of things but it’s not going to hold you at night and give you all of those warm fuzzy feelings that marriage is meant to do.
Everyone else is doing it and your family is insisting: If everyone else jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge, would you join them? As for your family’s insistence, there are cultures all over the world where the parents choose who their children will marry. This is usually a very BAD idea with the couple ending up miserable and wishing for a way out.
Think carefully about why you’re getting married before you make the walk down the aisle, and be sure they’re the RIGHT reasons.
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